How To Overcome Shyness In Adolescence and Toddlers

Many parents feel confused and annoyed with this behavior of their child. They get embarrassed when their friend is asking the child something and the child fixes his gaze on the floor, puts his fingers into his mouth and does not respond at all ! These children may be very assertive and playful at home in the presence of everyday people, like parents and grandparents. But the moment they step out of their house or someone steps into their house, they kind of ‘freeze up’.

Here are few practical ways to encourage shy tots to come out of their shells.

Time and Patience: Don’t try to force the child into situations that are daunting for her. Take things slowly and applaud every step along the way. Some children simply develop these skills at different stages to others, and we may need to exercise some patience.

Manners and Behaviors:  Irrespective of how shy our child may be, there are some basic manners and behaviors that should be expected from our child, including the importance of being polite to others and responding in the appropriate manner to new people. If the toddler is scared of unstructured events then prepare the toddler for new experiences. Tell her where are we going, who will be there and what will happen.

Stranger Anxiety: If in a party, stay with her until she warms up and starts to enjoy herself. During quiet times at home with books and toys, teach her what to say and what to do in social settings. If with a stranger, get her little bit familiarized with the stranger. Resist the temptation to rush in the minute she calls or looks uncertain. Wave reassuringly and chatting to the person.

Getting Along: It may be better (especially between the ages of 15 months and two years) to concentrate on one-on-one sessions with another suitable toddler before trying groups. Toddlers often love and respond well to older children (around six years and up) who are more predictable and patient but are still children. Spending time with an older child if one is available gives them a positive experience to build on.

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Baby Bliss

When a Baby is born, it is a mixture of lots and lots of feelings...... happy, excited, thrilled, nervous, frightened, confused and on and on. But ultimately it is a wealth which keeps every one busy and happy in the family.

Baby first time in our hand, babies first feeding, babies first sleep at home, babies first bath, first time when baby looks at you, baby when holding your thumb tight in his/her hands, babies first smile, baby first time rolling over, baby sitting up the first time, baby standing up the first time, babies first step.... the experience is heaven.

Responsibilities of being a  parent:

• Feeding the newborn breast milk, and the right time to give right nutritious food for first few months.
• Building a close bond with the baby.
• Taking care of Mental and physical well being of the baby.

Baby Bliss..............

• Cultivating creativity from toddler hood.
• Discovering, Preventing, and Treating Food Allergies.
• Giving right moral values and discipline.
• Planing a better Future wealth wise and health wise for both.

There is  a saying that God couldn’t be every where so he created mothers. The positive bond between a mother and child cannot be compared with anything in this world and this bond remains till death. When a child grows up into a man he still needs his mothers love and her loving look no matter what age he is in.

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Shyness In Children, Toddlers And Adolescence

Shyness is often more of an issue for parents than it is for children. Many parents feel they have somehow failed because their children aren’t sparkling like all other kids.  For some toddlers, shyness can be a big hurdle to overcome. They hide behind their parents legs when some, familiar or unfamiliar person approaches them. And there is nothing wrong with that.

It is very important to first understand that such kind of shyness is not a problem in itself. It is rather a reflection of something else that is going on in the child’s mid. Here are few of them.

Fear of strangers: Or what we call stranger anxiety. Some children are simply too scared of unfamiliar people. Such children find it extremely difficult to interact with those who are either complete stranger or occasional visitors.

Analysis of situation: ‘Look before you leap’ is the motto of some children. Children, who are very sensitive to their own and to other’s feelings, generally find it difficult to be impulsive and prefer to look at things for a distance, analyze the details and then cautiously inch forward. Unfortunately, by the time they feel comfortable to go ahead, the push from people fades. Then they have no choice but to stay back.

Fear of uncertainty: Some children like to be sure what is happening next. They prefer a routine over an unstructured day.  They throw fewer tantrums if they are told things that are told things that going to happen and when they meet someone, they are fine. But when they meet with some one unexpectedly, they retreat because they are not metal prepared for that meeting. 

Some children are just not wired to be social butterflies. If this is the case in our child, then we need to accept a little bit of shyness in our kid. Some shyness here and there could be coming from small influence of each of the reason mentioned above. That is something not to be worried about. Most shyness in toddler years is developmental. And its often the case that the shyness will gradually lessen as the child grows, gains experience and builds confidence. Even then here are some ways to get the young one out of shyness…. 

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Potty Training - How to start and When to start

Here are 3 most frequently asked questions by parents regarding potty training tips

When to start potty training my child?

The best practice is start potty training at an early age. Indian diaper free approach explains that we should take toilet training like any other activities of a child, like bathing, playing. Usually toddlers make sounds or grunt when they want to pass stool. And mother could easily understand this indication and hold the baby in their arms and give verbal cues that prompt the baby to defecate. They may hold the baby over a sink or a bowl. And gradually taking baby over a potty chair becomes easy without any effort.  But if this is not the case, and we want to potty train a child at a little later stage, it becomes little difficult as they grow up. These toddlers learn this process some where between 18 months to 3 years. It is very important to know their readiness to learn potty training. Some parents begin training as soon as their child can sit on their own, but some kids may not be ready until well into the third or forth year.

Potty Training

How long does it take for a toddler to learn potty training?

We should think of  potty training as a process. The end goal is great but getting there takes time. Like crawling or walking, toddlers learn to use the potty in their own time. Some children get trained within few days but many more take several months.

How to potty train a 3 year old child in 3 days?

J. Its not a magic. And no strategy can possibly fit all kids. We should remember one thing, to teach this grown up habit is not only hard for parents, but to learn it even harder for our child.If we have a set of ideas to try out, one of them may click our child.

Potty training tips can be found at step by step guide to potty training.

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