As we all know, every kid goes through this stage. When they are too young, they can’t express their emotions, and when something which they don’t like happens around them, it comes out through activities like hitting and biting. It is very important to tame this behavior in the beginning itself. Some times we feel, as they grow up they will learn to behave automatically. But that is not the truth. If we don’t nip this misbehavior in the bud, as they grow up this behavior grows as screaming and back talking and ultimately our beloved one would turn into a spoilt kid.
Here are some tips to tame this misbehavior
- Pick your battles: Give the small things small attention and big things big attention. Every little thing we interrupt them, they will very less likely to listen to our words when we really want them to. So we need not scold them for every little mischief. That way we will be happier and calmer – as our child will be happier calmer and better behaved too.
- Provide unconditional love: children need to know we love them. Every day even when they have done wrong.
- Blame the behavior: There is a difference between blaming the behavior and blaming the child. When we try to correct our child during misbehavior, we need to be very particular about explaining the child, what has gone wrong. It is his action of fault and not the child. We could say, “I love you, but you can’t bite people”.
- Be developmentally appropriate: On the journey towards teaching good manners, sometimes we think of our child more advanced than he really is. Many younger children can’t understand a request because it involves thinking or listening skills that they have not developed yet.
- End the power struggle: If power struggle starts then winning becomes more attractive than listening and cooperating. Don’t give opportunity for power struggles. The child starts thinking he has to win the struggle, and debate continues.
- Divert the Attention: If the child gets very angry on some situation and hitting. Then let the child not get into that kind of situation. As parents, we would know what turns our child on and what turns off. Talk about things which he likes to hear and when he calms down completely let him know about the misbehavior. Shouting and hitting is not at all a solution.
- Just go with the flow: At this age, they only want to check their limits. They want to explore as much as possible. They will have so much enthusiasm that, adults words don’t matter for them. If we become angry, then we end up showing it out in action, that’s what they would learn in future. Just understand their innocence.
- Hunger, sickness, sleep and fatigue: These also lead to poor behavior. First we need to take child’s physical condition into consideration.